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Perfectionism

Perfectionism, in psychology, is a broad personality style characterized by a person’s concern for the pursuit of flawlessness and perfection. It is accompanied by critical self-evaluations and concerns regarding others’ evaluations of themselves.

The root of perfectionism is to believe that your self-worth is based on your accomplishments.
Perfectionism is also often present when a combination of these factors exists:

  • Rigid, high parenting expectations from when you were a child
  • Very critical, shameful or abusive parents
  • Excessive or unrealistic praise for your achievements when you were a child. It forms an external locus of control that causes you to try to find self-worth outside of yourself throughout your life.
  • Low self-esteem or feeling inadequate
  • Where your self-esteem is determined by your achievements
  • Black and white thinking –
  • Attempts to feel in control
  • Cultural expectations

It’s where you try to maintain balance by trying to reproduce the opposite outside than you feel inside

How to master your own perfectionism:

Become more aware of your tendencies and thinking towards perfectionism

  1. Focus on the positive aspects of your life and be practical about your areas can development
  2. Allow yourself to make mistakes and work gently with yourself when you have
  3. Set more reasonable and realistic goals
  4. Learn how to receive criticism and also to distinguish when someone criticizes your behavior or your character. If they criticize your character they may need boundaries
  5. Reduce the pressure you put on yourself
  6. Focus on meaning above perfection
  7. Try not to procrastinate
  8. Cut out negative influences from your life and actively work towards comparing yourself to others.
  9. Go see someone if your perfectionism makes your life unbearable

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